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Caring for Aging Parents: The Tough Truths

May 08, 2019 0):?> in: Senior Housing Uncategorized

When we were growing up, we were the ones being taken care of by our parents. Even as we approach our thirties or forties, it’s possible we still look to them for guidance or wisdom. However, there comes a point in our lives when the roles may switch. And believe us when we say, it is not an easy transition for anyone - so don’t be so hard on yourself. It is a lot of responsibility, and it can be made even harder when you have children, a job, or a spouse.

With children, depending on their age, they require a lot of your attention, time, and love. The same is true when you are caring for aging parents. They don’t want to be a burden, yet they feel powerless because they really do need help. It can be a lot of work for the caregiver. They have a lot of choices to consider: Do they hire a live-in nurse? Do they put them in a home? Do they try to have their parents move in with them? These are all questions you need to ask yourself, as well as any other significant parties in your life who would be affected by the change as well.

You have to think of it from a practical yet emotional sense. If your loved one is in good health and spirits but just need some extra help here and there, a live-in nurse is a great option. They are there to take care of their day-to-day needs but you can still stop by and you can still visit your parent and make sure they are doing well. It is important they feel connected to familiar faces and familiar people. They don’t want to seem too disconnected from what they know and love.

If caring for your parent has taken an emotional toll on your life and is affecting your marriage and your ability to do your job, you might have to put them in a nursing home. An assisted living facility or nursing home can offer them the care they need, as they have trained professionals for that very reason. There can be challenging tasks like helping them put on their clothes, helping them go to the toilet, and feeding them, etc. And sometimes, it’s best to bring in a neutral party to keep the family ties as they were prior to health conditions worsening.

The best thing to do is research, ask around, and do what is right for both you and your parent. When both of those factors align, everyone walks away as happy as they can be during this tough time. The main thing is not to be too hard on yourself over the decision you make, as we are all genuinely doing the very best we can do.

If you ever need a listening ear or guidance on how to best navigate these waters, we are here for you

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